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Should Child Support Money Be Accountable?

Posted in Child Support on 24th April 2014

Should Child Support Money Be Accountable?
Should the recipient of child support money provide the other parent with receipts or even a general accounting (not a “to the penny” accounting), including what was spent from their own resources?

Keep in mind that most states mandate each party have access to the other’s income information, so privacy is not an argument.
For the record, I don’t pay child support. I have but my children are all grown.
KA, ablockgurl and Wendy:
You need milk. You send a child to the corner market for a gallon of name-brand milk, a loaf of bread and gave them a $ 20 bill, would it be acceptable that they returned with a quart of generic milk and day-old bread but no change? After all, you got the basics you wanted, it just wasn’t the quantity or quality you paid for. See the difference?
dracorium:
Will the IRS accept this excuse?
Tex S:
The ones ordered to pay child support (payors) are already held accountable with punishments up to and including jail time for failing to do so.
georgebonbon:
My guess is he actually believed child support had something to do with support of children. It doesn’t.
KA, goods and services are not “child support”. Even supporting a child is not considered as “child support”. The only thing that the courts will accept is $ , so while your idea is good the law interferes.
I’m pleasantly surprised at some of the more level-headed answers from some of the feminists.
I’m thinking I will let this go to a vote instead of picking one. There are many good ones.

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Answer by chasrmck
Absolutely. The operative words are “child support”. If you are contributing your money for that purpose, you should have a right to know that that is what it is used for.

Answer by sinistermooess2
yes it should be

Answer by jennifer74781
Depends on the amount of money.

I receive $ 50/week for two children. Do I feel I should give information on where that money is spent? No. It is obvious that I spend much more than $ 50/week on my children. However, I wouldn’t have a problem if legally told to do so. In fact, I would be happy to show how little it pays for.

There are some women/men who receive a huge amount of money for child support. This I feel should be documented. There are some parents who do not spend the money on their children.

Another thing to keep in mind – custodial parents can claim part of their rent/utilities, etc as supporting their children.

Answer by Anita Smith
Yes, it’s all about what is best for the child. The custodian mother or father does not always have this in mind when it comes to child support. While not all of them do it, there are a lot of mothers who squander the CS money, especially when it’s in the thousands a month (which is nearly 60% of all cases).

Custodial parents who do the right thing have nothing to worry about, so have no reason to object.

Keep in mind, most single mothers are not responsible. I respect the few who are though.

Answer by zeb6219
If the funds contributed for child support are not reflected in the physical well being of the recipient, I believe the parent receiving the funds be required to provide an accounting of how the money was spent. If you suspect that your support money is being spent for other than the welfare of your children, either talk to your lawyer about your suspicions, or the prosecuting attorney of the city or county you reside in. Abuse of child support is not unusual.

Answer by Melanie J
Yes. The money is to help provide the children with what they need and should not be spent elsewhere.

In MI, the court can order the recipient of support to provide receipts to the court proving the support money was properly spent. The receipts are to be turned in monthly and the recipient of support can be held accountable for any amount that was not spent on the shelter, feeding and general care of the child(ren). The court usually only orders receipt turn in if there is evidence that the recipient of support was mishandling support funds and at the request of the provider of support.

Too many women and men have let their children do without while spending support money on cosmetics, clothing, social activities etc.

I wouldn’t blame my ex husband if he asked for receipts. Of course, I would be too busy being happy that the deadbeat was actually paying support. At last check, he owed me $ 19,000.00 in arrears for my two children. I am supposed to recieve $ 86.00 a week in support, so I would have no problem proving I spend more than that weekly on the care and feeding of two kids.

Answer by georgebonbon
Yes in theory. No in practice unless it becomes a legal issue.

Anyway in England a father went to jail recently to protest against paying child maintenance. He actually had joint custody/residence of his children. He argued that he already provides 50% of the care so why should he be jailed?

What could he be thinking of?

Answer by KA1227
My suggestion for child support is to provide the material goods the child needs, such as clothing and school supplies, and putting the utility bills in BOTH parent’s names, so there’s no guesswork there. Most companies have online accounts, so checking the bills is easy. Consider paying for child’s exctracurricular activities directly, so YOU know where your money is going.

I understand the fear you might have that your “child support” ends up being spent on Mom’s expensive manicures or girls night out. But I find it demeaning to expect a responsible mother to save receipts to account down to the penny how she has spent that check from Dad. If she provides a home, meals and clothing, your money is being spent appropriately.

EDIT@littleviv2000: Since you asked, I find it demeaning that the threat of jail time looms over the heads of every non-custodial parent, simply because there have been enough deadbeats who skipped out on payments that it became necessary to do so.

EDIT@Phil: Yes, I agree. That’s exactly why I suggest the non-custodial parent buys the specific items the child needs, or pays the child’s bills directly, instead of giving cash to the other parent.

Answer by ablockgurl
No because the child is using water and electricity in the home that they live in, so child support should go towards that also.

Answer by wendy g
I agree with KA. If the child has adequate clothing, food, and other necessities, obviously the money is being spent as it should.
I do think, however, that if there is evidence that the above is NOT happening, that there should be some recourse.

EDIT-I do see your point. The problem is that, too often, after a divorce, the parents stop functioning as a parental unit. I understand that they are no longer a couple, but they are still parents, so they should be discussing (and trying to agree on) how the money is to be spent. However, I understand that is unlikely in a lot of cases.
I think that the major problem (I have) with this proposal is that it assumes that women won’t do right by their children.
The other part of problem is that some women do misuse the money.
So perhaps it is reasonable to have child support accounted for, but only because many divorced couples can’t seem to be reasonable and discuss the needs of the child as parents should.
It’s really a shame.

proof of misusing child support money?

Posted in Child Support on 16th March 2014

proof of misusing child support money?
We have no money for a lawyer or to go to court … pretty broke. But the ex’s wife sent an email to my sister in law stating my ex-husband is not using the child support money on our child, instead it goes straight to drugs. I also checked his myspace page not to long ago and he wrote a blog about how he was on drugs and needed help but refuses to go to rehab. If I take the email and blog page to domestics and tell them my ex is using the money for drugs can they do anything? What can they do?

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Answer by divot II
You can speak with the police or sheriff’s department about your knowledge of his criminal activities. It’s free, babe. No attorney required. You seem to think there is a crime, or something, of “misuse of child support.” Not so. Your coa (cause of action) isn’t about the child support, it’s about not being in the child’s bests interests to be in the custody of a druggy. BTW, “a blog” isn’t really proof of anything, unless he admits it was true. He could say it was him showing off, being cool, making stuff up. “A blog” is not a statement under oath.

It’s not about what “they” can do. You can file a motion to amend custody.

Answer by allfoamnobeer
You have a few options. 1. You can try a file the paperwork with the court who handled the dissolution (not recommended). 2. You can call you local bar asssociation and see if they have a list of attorneys who handle this sort of thing on a pro bono (free) or much reduced rate. 3. You can go to the courthouse and see if there are what are called “family law facilitators” and see if they can help you do it yourself (relative to No. 1 above). Or 4. You can call your legal aid group and have them try to help.

If what you’re saying is true, you need to do something and do it quickly. Your child’s well being and safety are the most important thing.

Answer by Amy Kloster
You certainly should at least try to use this evidence. Electronic evidence in court cases is kind of a sticky subject. This law article talks about some of the issues with electronic evidence: http://www.hullandzimmerman.com/articles/electronic-evidence-gathering/ But it is becoming increasingly the most common form of evidence. You stated that you can’t afford a lawyer, but you may want to at least briefly consult with one or go to a free legal advisory clinic to discuss how you will present the evidence before you proceed with the court.

Answer by George McCasland
So, who is supporting the child, or have they died of starvation?

Good Dance / Techno songs like ecstasy, He’s a pirate, Traffic, Children of the sandstorm, sex and money, bass?

Posted in Child Care on 24th February 2014

Good Dance / Techno songs like ecstasy, He’s a pirate, Traffic, Children of the sandstorm, sex and money, bass?
You must like his these songs: amazing, really fast and just get pumped and in a dancing mood Best Answer (s):.

by Amanda M
Everything borthers of the Warp answer.

Answer by Paul
Paul Oakenfold, its more trance or house music as techno. Download “Ready Steady Go” first, you’ve probably heard it before.

response from atomic * kitty *
try something by basshunter! I like “Boten Anna” … http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYQUsp-jxDQ & “Vi sitter här i Venten och spelar” http://www.youtube.com/watch … ? v = nAmddu8mCPE

Reply 07_Shelby_GT500
Satisfaction by Benny Benasi.

Answer by Donna
Bing Bang, from the television series Lazy Town.http :/ / www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKYvliDvNVQhttp://www.youtube .com / watch? v = g-FccJ8eHTc

Reply colorfulsmiles
“Dragonstea Din Tei” by OZONE is amazing. This is also known as the “Numma Numma Song.” It is a Romanian pop hit that was used in the clubs around the country. I recommend this dance song

Answer by Alli
some of these songs experiments, they are some of my favorite trance / techno songs and artists: Ferry Corsten “Fire”, “Punk” , “Time” & “Everything goes” DJ Micro “Inside Of Me (Spacecorn Vs. Artificial)” Robin Fox “I See Stars” Above & Beyond “Can not Sleep” and “For All I Care” Suite 117 “Smaller “Speaker” Omnibus “Karsh Kale” Free Fall “Nysse & Hinton” Silver Water “(DS Remix) Cara Dillon vs. 2Devine” Black Is The Colour “Tube & Berger” Straight Ahead “Olive” You’re Not Alone “(ATB Remix ) Danielle Bollinger “Kiss The Sky” Gabriel and Dresden “Tracking Treasure Town” Judge Jules “Ordinary Day” Kirsty Hawkshaw “Fine Day” Cabin Crew “Star To Fall” September “Satellites” Paul Van Dyke “For An Angel”, ” Nothing But You “and” The Other Side “Ian Van Dahl” Castles in the Sky “Foggy” Come … (Into My Dream) “Oceanlab” Clear Blue Water “&” Satellite “Angel City” Do You Know (I Go Crazy) “and” Love Me Right “Kaskade” Steppin ‘Out “&” Be Still “Iio” Rapture “,” Kiss You “and” Smooth “Benassi Bros” Every Single Day “and” Hit My Heart “Stonebridge” time “Aurora” Hear You Calling “(Ferry Corsten Remix) Motorcycle” as the rush comes “Groove (a) holics” Children 2002 “Happy listening!