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Can my babysitter be forced to give my child to her father while I’m not home?

Posted in Child Care on 17th May 2014

Can my babysitter be forced to give my child to her father while I’m not home?
My husband and I are separated and there is no custody order (I’ve only begun the whole process). If he showed up at my house while I’m at work, and the police were called, could my sitter be forced to let him take her?

My husband is an alcoholic and a drug addict and I don’t trust him with my child. I know he has rights but I don’t wasn’t him driving her in a vehicle if he is drunk or high. Thank you.

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Answer by Melanie
I think he has the right. It might vary depending on where you live. It might be best to get a restraining order against him if you believe that he could harm or put your children in danger. You would have to go talk to your local authorities for more information and to see what your options are

Answer by say hello to my little friend
I don’t know but unless he gots the physical proof on hand hre can’t do nothing so I say you make a letter stating your name and the kids names that you leave your kid in the care of the babysitter(her name ) while at work in your home and that legal proceedings are in order but that you the childs legal guardian do not give the sitter permission to release child to anyone and put your work number and cell number. And demand to be called if such things happen. The cops are the law yes but they cannot get into a civil matter like this especially if it could endanger the child

Answer by Peter
Hi there,

I have sympathy to your situation. A nanny or babysitter is hired to provide care for your child and to think you go to work in fear that your ex may “Rock Up” and try to take the child with him is a worry. It is obviously more so of a worry because you said he is likely to be intoxicated or even on drugs.

The laws are different for various countries and states, but l would imagine in most states the police would still be forced to show a reasonable level of care or officially “Duty Of Care” if your ex was to call police or your babysitter was to call police l very much doubt the police would allow a child to be taken from the home to go with an intoxicated or drug affected parent.

Your babysitter is hired by you to provide the care, by extension you are handing the responsibility to your babysitter to provide adequate care of your child while you are at work and that would suggest to me your babysitter is the one in control at that point in time and not the ex.

I would prepare a letter/note and sign it so if this situation does ever occur, your babysitter can provide the letter to police to advise them that you authorise your babysitter to provide the care while you are at work or busy with other commitments… That way the police can see that you have prepared a response for this potential event and lets just hope the police follow your requests and keep the safety of your child as number one priority (which l am sure they will)

Good luck with it all

Answer by Ruth C
she probably can be forced to give the child over if the police are called, But I don’t think he’ll be calling the police if he’s drunk or high. Even if he did, it’s more likely the police will take him in for being under the influence in public.

Answer by Allanas
Your babysitter is your employee. If you tell him/her not to release the child to the father – legally, he/she can refuse.

BUT – if he shows up with a cop, there could be complications. Technically, the cop won’t grab the baby and leave, but the father could say that HE has custody and the sitter is a kidnapper. Or you kidnapped the baby, or it’s his house and the sitter is on drugs and delusional…

A lot of scenarios could play out.

Tell the sitter to call the police if the father shows up. No conversation, no finding out what he wants – just call the cops on sight. Then she’s to call YOU. Immediately. You have to set it up with your boss that you might need to leave at a moment’s notice.

Good luck!

Answer by harwarda
Have you changed the locks on the house? She should never open the door to him to begin with. You really need to check on your state laws. I would start by calling the police department and discussing with them what they would or would not do in this scenario.

My dog barks really loud and non-stop when we get home…?

Posted in Babysitting on 8th April 2014

My dog barks really loud and non-stop when we get home…?
My dog is eight years old and for the past few years or so, she just barks (at the top of her little doggy lungs) whenever someone gets home. This goes on for like five minutes. It takes her a while to calm down afterward too. We just don’t know why she does this because she hasn’t done it her whole life, just the last two or three years. She’s a britney springer spaniel mix. Does anyone know why she started doing this?

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Answer by lizzut89
anxiety. or stressed out. the easiest thing i can tell you is that go to http://www.cesarmillaninc.com he explains everything.

Answer by The Dog Lady
dog trainer 30 plus years –
Well love, I can only guess why she does it. I am guessing she did it once and she got some “extra attention” because of it – thus it has now become a bad habit. Our dogs will all be vocal if allowed. I don’t think they do it to be irritating, but to say “YOUR HOME YOUR HOME YOUR HOME!!!” – – – they love us way past any love we could ever imagine.
So…this being said this is how you change the behavior.
If your dog knows the sit command as well as some others avert attention by using commands. Come in, the barking starts say “sit” good baby. “shake” – good girl , stay…nice work. Bounce from one command to another keeping the attention on the commands and off of the barking. You can also add in between “sh sh sh — no bark, sit – good job” like that. She will catch on. She was smart enough to learn what brought the extra attention on, so she is plenty smart to learn how to change. I think you’ve got yourself a very smart little sweetie! Have fun with her.

how was your first week at home with baby #1, what were the main problems you had?

Posted in Babysitting on 31st March 2014

how was your first week at home with baby #1, what were the main problems you had?
about to have my first and was wondering what to expect when i bring baby home?

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Answer by mrsb
my main problems were getting up at night, not really a problem just hard to adjust to because there is nothing like getting good sleep lol

Answer by Free 2 B Me
Not sleeping when he slept leaving me more tired.

Answer by •:*:•Ky♥Mom•:*:•
I have to agree with the first poster… getting up at night is the hardest… while the first few nights are pretty easy it only goes down hill from there… by the time my son was about 3 months old I think I could get up, walk to the kitchen, make a bottle and feed my son without even waking up (okay maybe I woke up, but I really got used to it!)
Also it’s just pretty nerve racking altogether! It’s a pretty big thing to get used to, but mothers usually catch on pretty quickly.
Sleep when you baby sleeps, and remember it’s okay to let your house be messy… I tried to hard when I brought my baby home, and rarely got to enjoy just having him there, so mainly just enjoy it, and get as much sleep as you can, sleep deprivation can do a number on you!
Good luck!

Answer by “EL GUAPO”
you are not going to get a good night’s sleep for about the first six weeks or so, so rest up now! First week is a lot of feeding, changing diapers and listening to crying. This will be all day every day, no breaks! Unless you have help and are planning to formula feed. In that case you might be able to nap more that I did!

Answer by momsey
Expect an insane lack of sleep. You’ll never believe how much that baby is up in the night, and might only be able to sleep when you are holding him or her. Just try to take it easy, listen to everyone’s advice when they tell you to sleep when the baby is sleeping. And just know that it will get better!

Answer by Practical & Magical
oh wow, actually my 1st week home, we stayed with my mom (me daddy and baby) and like after day 2, daddy and I slept though an entire day! My mom got up with the baby. Pretty bad, but seriously didn’t hear her! But after that, if she wiggles her toes i hear her!

Answer by krob8008
You’ll be really tired and possibly a little emotional. Man, thinking back on my first baby, the time we spent together right after we came home from the hospital was just so special! I really enjoyed it! I was young and tired and basically single (not really) but I was doing it all on my own. My first baby boy just holds this really special place in my heart. You’ll melt every time you look at your baby! Congrats!

Answer by Melissa S
My main problems were trying to nurse, figuring out a pumping routine, and coping with feelings of jealousy i had toward my husband. He did a lot of the post-birth care for our baby because I had a c-section and couldn’t do much lifting, walking, etc. I felt insanely jealous/threatened that he was changing the diapers and picking her up from the bassinet in the middle of the night. That subsided during week two. Being a mom brings out your protective side!

Answer by SS.622
Okay, well it was HELL for me..no one told me babies eat every 2 hours night and day..so when I was getting woken up all night long..I was wanting to rip my hair out and run away.
But she didnt just wake up..once she got up at say 1 am..she was up until like 5 in the morning..crying.
So just be prepared to not geting ANY sleep..and be prepared to hear lots of crying.

Most babies get their days and nights mixed up..and it normally stays like that for atleast a couple of weeks..for my daughter it took her nearly 10 weeks to figure out night time was for sleeping.


lol..thanks for the thumbs down losers.

Answer by imglowinq
it is my first baby..and i only live with my husband who knew even less than i did… i didnt even want to sleep because i was afraid the baby couldnt breathe or something since i never had been in charge of a newborn before…i didnt even have time to eat, i ended up loosing 40 pounds in a month, unbelievable but true