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Child Support. Not great ex husband being a jerk. Please help?

Posted in Child Support on 29th March 2014

Child Support. Not great ex husband being a jerk. Please help?
My daughter is 3 years old. My ex and I have been divorced since she was 1. He has only paid child support once and we live in the same town. He never calls to see but is constantly telling people that I never let him see her and I a heroin addict and alot of other stupid shit. So I told him my daughter isn’t going over to his mom’s house (where he lives) until he pays because it’s not fair he gets free time and I have to work overtime and still barely get to see her. He just got a job 2 months ago in the last year. I also told him if he wants to see her he can come over to my house and see her because I don’t want her over at his mom’s house (his dad is creepy and my daughter comes back saying weird things so it’s not just because he’s a jerk) until he starts paying child support. He’s making a big deal about everything and I want to know if I should take him to court? I already told him if hes worried about my spending it on myself if he could just go buy some winter clothes that would be enough, but he hung up on me. Is there another way other then court to solve this? Please any advice would be greatly appropriated.

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Answer by R K
if you can sign up for welfare, the county where you live will go after your ex to get all the back child support to keep you off welfare.

Answer by lady
When you were divorced did he get court order child support payments and visitation rights? You need to make sure that you are in compliance with whatever the court ordered. If he was ordered to pay support, and has not,then he is in contempt of court and you can take him to court.. He could get jail time, garnished wages etc.Make sure you document EVERYTHING. Every phone time what was said etc. Any time he spends with your daughter….date, length of time.
Going to court and getting things put down in writing is the only way to protect yourself and your daughter.
Good Luck!

Answer by goodnused
I think you may check with you local child welfare departments for advise. Surely most county court houses have people available to assist you in getting money for child support. If it has to go to court, they may assist also. The DEAD BEAT days are over, but please don’t use his parents or him as the reason you daughter can see them. Unless you have 100% proof that they are in some way a violation of the child’s best interest. Good Luck.

Answer by Taurean
You wrote “I don’t want her over at his mom’s house (his dad is creepy and my daughter comes back saying weird things so it’s not just because he’s a jerk) until he starts paying child support”

Would you send your daughter to his CREEPY dad if he starts paying child support?

Answer by June
You need to get in touch with the child support agency.
If your x doesn’t work then he cant pay child support if he does work then they will work out how much he earns and take a percentage from his wages.
If i was you i would not bother with him as he seems like a person that your child could do without in growing years.
Sometimes fighting someone for what ever reason is not worth it.
Try to look after your child your self and let the child suport agency do the chasing.
You may get some money in a year most likely not much as he will be one of those people that know how to play the system.
good luck.

Please help!! How much weight should my 1 year old gain each month?

Posted in Toddlers on 27th March 2014

Please help!! How much weight should my 1 year old gain each month?
My daughter is very picky. I try all kinds of things but she won’t eat much. This has just started like 1 1/2 months ago. I am getting worried becuase she hasn’t put on any weight. She weighs the same as she did then. she weighs 20.6 pounds. and she is verry tall. She has been fussing alot lately, I think she may be getting her molars in. Any advice? She will eat somthing one day and thenn not the next.

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Answer by iamjustcurious
If your daughter was a full term, average weight baby at birth, then she is right on track. At twelve months, she might be getting her eye and stomach teeth, but not her molars until she is about two. The eye and stomach teeth [the pointy ones on the top and bottom, either side of the top and bottom 4 teeth], can cause her to go off her food a little. Don’t worry, just keep up her fluids and offer her a variety of food at meal times and she will be fine.

Answer by kitty81301
Don’t worry about her, if you give her the food and she doesn’t want to eat it then she is not going to. Most children will not starve themselves. Some kids don’t gain weight every month my son has been the same weight for the past couple months. If it is her teeth then give a small dose of Tylenol and if its still bothering you take her to her pediatrician. Just relax a little because children do feed off your anxiety

Answer by western b
She sounds like she is doing all the “normal toddler” things 🙂 When my son hit his first birthday, he went from being a human garbage disposal, to eating like a bird! His pediatrician told me I should expect him to gain 4 pounds between his first and second birthday…so just over 5oz a month…hardly anything compared to the first year! He also told me to expect a toddler to eat either one large meal a day or to have one whole day of good eating every three days 🙂 Just keep offering nutritious snacks and meals throughout the day and she will eat when she is hungry!!

As far as the molars are concerned…my son cut his first set of molars at 14 months (all four of them at once!) I found he actually enjoyed toasted bagels the most when he was teething because chewing the bread was like a massage for his gums 🙂 I would just toast one with some cheese on top to sneak in a bit of protein and he gobbled it up 🙂

Rabbit Help!!!!….?

Posted in Babysitting on 10th March 2014

Rabbit Help!!!!….?
I Was In My Backyard And I Found A Baby Rabbit So I Caught It And Put It In A Cage….I Dont Know If Its Wild Cause My Brother Pets It All The Time.Should I Let It Go Back To Where Ever It ame From?

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Answer by Littlegirl
Too late the mother will not take it back.

Answer by G.G.
Take it to a wildlife rehab center. Now.

You can find one at

Of course, they’ll already be overwhelmed with animals that truly needed to be rescued, but thanks to you, this is now the rabbit’s only chance for survival.

“I found a baby rabbit so I caught it…” Where is the rationale in this?? Is it not common sense that wild animals should be left undisturbed in the wild?!? Please, help me understand the thought process that goes on in the heads of people like you.

Answer by Amber
What color? What size? More info, please.

A wild baby rabbit doesn’t really know to be afraid so that would explain why your brother can pet it all the time.

If it is a wild rabbit then , yes, put it back…now is a good time – before mom comes back and decides her baby was taken by a predator and takes off. Put it right where you found it or near the closest bush or dip in the grass ( the nest). Mom leaves it by itself and comes back every 24 hours or so. It doesn’t matter at all if you’ve already handled it. Mom will still take it back. No harm done. Don’t take it to a wildlife center or try to feed it yourself. It needs to be with mom. At this young age it is extremely important it is nursed by mom and wean properly by her or will likely die.

If it’s a domestic rabbit go ask the people on your block and those on the next street behind your house if they or anyone they know has rabbits. Many people never know that their neighbors have rabbits. This baby may be missing and the owners worried sick. Put up posters as well.

Good luck.

Answer by bunnylover
depending on the age,,,if it is older you can let it go back,,,if not try bottle feeding it, but u have to know what to feed it,,ask as 4h person around you,,they will know a lot and will be happy to help you.

Answer by ♥Pointe Dancer♥
seriously stop putting a capitol letter on the first letter of every word and take it to the vet or something now if u wanna keep it so if it has anything on it then u can get it treated and u can keep it i hope i helped

Answer by Guinea pig foster mother
I can understand why you brought the baby rabbit inside. Baby rabbits often look like they’ve been abandoned, so bringing them inside and caring for them as pets seems like a good idea. However, the reality is that baby rabbits do best when cared for by their mothers. Mother rabbits feed their babies only once or twice a day, staying only about five minutes each time, so you’re unlikely ever to see the mother, but she’ll be around. Although it seems strange to humans for a loving mother to spend only a few minutes each day with her babies, she stays away to keep the babies safe. If she stayed with the babies in their nest, her presence might attract predators.

The baby you’ve found will almost certainly be better off if you return him to where you found him. If you’re concerned that the mother may have abandoned him, you can check on him each day. If he’s warm and has a full tummy, he’s probably fine. If there are any signs he might be hungry or sick, get help from a wildlife rehabilitator immediately. Your local humane society or SPCA may be able to give you a referral.

If you have any cats or dogs, please don’t let them go outside unsupervised until the baby rabbit has grown up and left the area.

The House Rabbit Society has two excellent articles on its web site that explain more about the care of baby rabbits: (best article)

It’s good of you to ask for advice on what to do with the baby you found. Please keep us posted on what happens.

Answer by margecutter
You need to put the bunnies back where you found them – it is illegal to keep them unless you have the proper permits.

Best advice on bunnies comes from this website:

It states: Many people mean well when they contact HRS after discovering an “abandoned” nest of wild rabbits. Often they wish to “rehabilitate” them with some advice from others. The reality is fewer than 10% of orphaned rabbits survive a week, and the care that people attempt to provide can be illegal, unnecessary, and potentially harmful. The best thing you can do is put the bunny right back where you found him, in the general area, as the Mom will only come back at night to call and find him. Leave the area…

Rabbit mothers nurse their babies for approximately 5 minutes a day. They will be in the nest early in the morning and then again in the evening. The milk is very rich and the babies “fill up” to capacity within minutes. Mother rabbits do not “sit” on the babies to keep them warm as do some mammals and birds. They build a nest with fur and grasses which helps to keep the babies warm in between feedings. If you come across a nest of bunnies in the wild and the mother is no where to be seen, please DO NOT disturb them…this is normal. By removing them from the nest you are greatly reducing their chances of survival…Mom will be coming back at night to call and feed him only once in the middle of the night. Do not take the bunny inside or feed him. That is the mom’s job. IT IS A MATTER OF HIS/HER SURVIVAL AND UP TO US AS HUMANS TO LEAVE NATURE BE AND LET THE MOM CARE FOR HER YOUNG. We often hear of mothers moving their babies and their nests, and have seen moms come back every night for up to a week to look for her missing baby. Do not take the baby from the mom or she will be frantic…

Older baby bunnies who are found outside of the nest may not be orphaned or in need of assistance. Baby cottontails are born without fur but develop a full coat in a week. Their eyes open in 10 days, and in three to four weeks they are weaned. At this age, they may explore the world outside of the nest but return there to sleep. They are not ignored by the mother but stay with the family group until four or five weeks of age. If he is just out and about, leave him be. He is discovering his world, waiting for mom to return at night when we humans are asleep.