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Do you think child support should be based on lifestyle or the direct costs associated with raising the child?

Posted in Child Support on 5th June 2014

Do you think child support should be based on lifestyle or the direct costs associated with raising the child?
When it comes to child support, do you think that it should be based on lifestyle/trickle down economics?. This is where the non-custodial parent pays the custodial parent money beyond what is needed for the day to day costs associated with raising the child. For example, if the non-custodial parent is wealthy, they may be ordered to pay in excess of $ 20,000 dollars a month. The theory is that by improving the custodial parent’s lifestyle, it will trickle down to the child.

On the other hand, some states like Texas cap child support at approximately $ 1,700 dollars per month, with the only exception being if the child is ill or something to that effect. This represents their view that child support is designed as “support,” not as “lifestyle to which they are accustomed” payment or a windfall for the custodial parent. So parents who earn more than $ 132,000 per year will generally pay the same amount of child support as someone who earns $ 1,000,000 or more per year.

Which method of child support do you agree with and why?.

Best answer(s):

Answer by Musta Krakish
women agree with the first, men agree with the second.

Answer by Lula
I don’t think men should have to pay any child support. In fact, I think men should relinquish their rights as parents completely.

Answer by Pearl
I’m just interested in what the absent parent says to the kid when the kid asks “hey, how come I had to get a second hand bike on ebay when you live in a mansion”.

Answer by Ya Coffee
The vast majority of people are not rich like in your examples and barely makes ends meet as it is.

Support payments are not that much at least in Canada. “As of March 31, 2012, the median monthly amount of a regular child or spousal support payment across the nine jurisdictions was $ 331, an increase of about 4% from the previous year.” Even paying for another bedroom in your apartment can cost this much. It does in NO way cover all expenses for a child – food, shelter, school supplies, books, transportation and clothing.

Even if this is only a small portion of what it costs, only “two-thirds of beneficiaries receive a full support payment each month” of this amount. This leaves huge numbers of household in dire poverty and that is not acceptable.

If a parent is very rich and forces his child to live in poverty, there will be a lot of issues later in life when he has to explain his selfishness to his deprived child.

Answer by Molly
I agree with Pearl. Why should a child have to wear clothes from the thrift store when the parent gets his/hers at Gucci? It’s the least an absent parent can do after not being there to help raise their own child.

Answer by Grace Under Fire
The actual cost of raising a child. Though I would say that might vary widely by area or lifestyle. For example, if the parents are very wealthy, then what’s considered “normal” would look very different than that of a middle-income couple. I think it should be negotiated, taking many things into account.

Answer by InvincibleFudgePotatoe
i really think child support should not be pressed on , i mean it’s the mother fault for getting pregnant with who ever she slept with , child support is nothing but to get money . The single parent need to know how to support themselves and child , if they can’t support , then adoption . My bio farther use his child support from my mother , on his own personal needs .

Answer by Don’t click on me
why do men hate their child?

Answer by Integration 20
I like the cap Texas law uses.

There’s no reason to hand money over to the custodial parent in order to improve her lifestyle.

If the non custodial parent would like to spend extra on his child, it should not need to be filtered through the mother.

In essence the people of this forum are stating that care for a child goes beyond meeting its needs. The non custodial parent is required to splurge a certain percent of his income on the child by enhancing the mother’s income.

Answer by Brady
I agree with capping child support. Once the child’s basic needs are taken care of, that should be it. Women need to get jobs if they want to live in big houses and drive nice cars. Texas has the right idea!

Can a mother file for direct child support when the father is already paying indirect child support?

Posted in Child Support on 2nd January 2012

Can a mother file for direct child support when the father is already paying indirect child support?
Originally in the custody papers, it said that the mother and the father should split the costs for the children evenly. Therefore, for the past 3 years, my husband and I have been paying for half of his two children’s tuition, uniforms, books, etc. On top of that, we pays for 100% of karate classes, 100% of cheerleading, 100% of basketball, and 100% of school registration fees, just to name a few. Recently, we found out that the children’s mother has not been paying any of her half of the mandatory expenses; her mother has… Her mother is very controlling and wants so bad to be the kids’ mother. She is mentally unstable and is in debt above her head. We have no idea how she is able to pay for everything. Well, the children’s mother is finally in agreement to find a way to get her mother out of the kids’ life but is afraid she will “cut her off” (the grandmother also supports the kids’ mother). So, she is wanting us to start paying her “child support.” If she took us to court for direct child support, how likely is it that we will have to pay HER money when he already pays indirectly?

Best answer(s):

Answer by Kathi S
Yes none of what you have mentioned except maybe the tuition would be considered as part of child support. Child support is to feed house and clothe the child, what he has been paying for is extras. If he has receipts for everything he has paid for it may help a bit,but if the mother has been receiving any state help he is going to owe the full support.