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Q & A: “Friends close, enemies closer” is the true .. that’s a good thing?

Posted in Working Mothers on 1st November 2010

question of Jade : “Friends close, enemies closer” is the true .. this is a good thing
Ok, first off, I’m just looking for honest answers and nice .. more if you bitch, I have to say to insult me or move on then … berating answers will not help. I am divorced 39yr recently (Sept. 2007) a man met online in January 2008 for 3 months, which he dates moved in my apt. I am a very independent person. He told me he worked as a mechanic and even “showed” me where he worked. well, I thought. Then he surprised me with a ring in November 2008, and that his parents had bought a house for us (as our credit was not good), so that we would pay them as normal (mortgage payment, etc.) during the whole time he was with me it not for everything … my job my bills so yes stupid of me I see a little late to pay to speak .. but I was deeply in love. Then things started happening. “Brother” great difficulty (as law) is …. Delays in the house, etc. (guess move in Dec) .. and I found out I was preg in Nov. .. But with all the stress and money situation I ended up miscarrying. Devastating, yet am. Then more problems .. his “father” away by my ex father in law died passed. His son (who he sees once a month) mother committed suicide on Halloween. then we get “final move” date and move the day before (and was the lease for my apt), I find out that everything he ever said to me was a lie .. Allllllll it. no job, no house, no money, no brother (only child), his father is not dead, his wife (separated) is not dead, but lives 20 minutes away, and after talking to her he knew was with her all the time I was sleeping with him (while I’m at work, it does not work). and his parents do not live in Montreal, but off 40 minutes, I almost lost my apt, but by the grace of God and one patient hostess before she left me with a 2000 that will be owed. encrypted so that the money including the introduction of my ex-husband fm etc. .. where then the man gets a job (i personally spoken to his boss), he confessed everything. but as always says he loves me so much. Now they say … keep your friends close and your enemies closer … I let him stay, he sleeps in the other room (Room mate) and I get it, pay me half of his bills atleast now and pay histories. I’m too old to do with crap again (the first was with my marriage) I told him he can stay, but there are rules and for the past month he has stuck to them. not talked to the former only if it is his son, I see his pay slip and he gives me what I ask. I met his parents and they tell him everything. horrified when they are very nice ppl were. I put him on a budget and told him money on his son’s responsibility, and begin to see him more than once a month … both his ex and agree to every other weekend (as I did with my own children). Honestly, I’ve seen a change, but we’ll see. He knows (and I) that he will not be any better than me (fm saw his past). Do you believe in giving a second chance, no matter how bad it is btw, I gave the ring back, of course Best answer?.

response from host
you and he have to decide what to do together. Relationships based on trust. If you can not trust him it will not work. I hope you can come to an understanding.

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