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My cousin is, for lack of a better word, a brat?

Posted in Toddlers on 16th December 2010

My cousin is, for lack of a better word, a brat?
I have a rather large family, and my uncle just added to it. A month or so ago, my aunt (my uncles wife) and their toddler daughter came to live over in the states. Completely legal, did the papers and everything, even a DNA test that came out positive. A month went by, and all she has ever done is put herself in a negative view with the rest of the family. All I’ve tried to do was make nice, trying to see the “sweet, energetic toddler” my other cousins have said to me (they met her before, I first met her at the airport here in the states). A few days ago I visited for the day. While taking a nap on the floor (a habit of mine) she jumped onto my stomach. Surprised, I roll, tripping her. She cried, and her father put her to sleep upstairs. This really struck to me. I fear of what will happen if this keeps up and she goes to school. I’m not sure if it’s my place to discipline her or anything, please help.
Sorry for this being so long, it’s my first question.

Best answer(s):

Answer by Untamed Waters
She sounds young, in that one experience she might have just been playing and you hurt her.

Answer by ruthelsa89
Shes a brat because she jumped on your stomach? Little kids do need teaching and pointing in the right direction, they cant be expected to know what you should or shouldnt do all the time. I dont you need to worry about her, if this is the only problem its not a big issue, and itll get resolved. So dont worry.

Answer by Boston Pattianne55
She’s a toddler! That’s what toddlers do. They seldom have the capability to know that what they did was right or wrong. They go from toddlers without thought to youngsters with intentions. But, it is then her parents job to take care of that. All you need to do is to know what to expect from them at certain stages. Read up on it…there are plenty of books and websites that will be more than glad to give you guide lines on the subject.

Answer by Rachael
You have to understand toddlers to understand this situation. This little girl has recently left her home country, everything and everyone she knew, and come to a new place full of new people. That is world-shattering for a young child. Much like when mom brings home a new baby, or the first few weeks of nursery school, this kind of change can cause HUGE behavioral shifts in toddlers. It’s almost always annoying, regressive or seemingly mean behavior, but it’s almost never permanent. She is not concerned about what the rest of the family, or anyone else for that matter, thinks of her. She’s a little kid who is still adjusting to a new situation and probably scared.

Definitely do not tell her parents how to discipline her or try to do it yourself. That’s extremely rude. Her father saw that she was misbehaving, and probably crying because she was tired, so he removed her from the situation and put her to sleep. That’s usually what the parent of a toddler should do in that situation. Leave the parenting up to the parents and expect that the unpleasant behavior will get better over time.

Answer by susuze2000
believe it or not, ignoring the person no matter how old they are usually works…if it is a child, just look bored and walk away…they will learn that they will get no attention, even negative, when they act up…it worked very well with my bratty nephew…he is still bratty to everyone else but not to me….