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Helpful Child Care Advice

Posted in Child Care on 24th August 2012

Helpful Child Care Advice

Article by Buddy Shearer

In need of an older persons advice on dating situation?

Posted in Working Mothers on 4th August 2012

In need of an older persons advice on dating situation?
I have a bit of a scenario that I am a little confused about you tell me what do you think.Well first when I first started talking to this guy, i asked him out for coffee, he said that he would meet up with me but said he couldnt because he had to work until 2 in the morning, but that he would call me the next day, in which he didnt,so I thought well forget him, months later somehow we got back in contact and were talking and I can hear kids in the background, and he tells me that he watches his childs mothers other two kids whom she has by someone I thought okay well maybe hes just a kinds considerate father, anyhow I go over to his apartment and hes acting very stangely, he actually looks around corners and hallways,…he was looking out the window..I ask him “What is wrong” his response “Nothing” he says “I just know sometimes kids play and hurt themselves around here” so I just want to make sure they’re okay” I walk out of his apartment and he walks like wayyy behind me” and he told me her schduele he says she works from like 11 pm 7 am, we talk a few months after that and I notice that he doesnt pick up his phone during the day sometimes, he mainly texts..which he says is because hes at work or with his son, so these last couple of times we;ve tried to get together he tells me “Oh no spending the night” because its always he has to do something with his son, or be at work, or court, a week ago I go to his apartment, and I notice his last name”Mitchell” on the telephone directory for apt #103, so I ‘m thinking hmmm did he move, because I thought he lived on the second floor, so I buzz apt 103, and a woman and kids walk out, and so I’m thinking I must have the wrong apt, and I walk upstairs to the apt that he lives in which is on the second floor, the lady walks up the stairs and follows me, and gets aggressive and asks me “Who are u here to see” and I look at her face more closely, and what do you know its his baby mother” I kind of panic and make up a name, and she walks away and then follows me to my car,..and she goes back in the house, so the guy i had been seeing pulls up, and tells me to meet him at his apt, which is on the second floor, and he tells me he feels guilty for leading me on,…and I ask him if there is someone else and he says no.,but I feel like theres something more, but how could he live up stairs and his baby mother lived downstairs in seperate apartments..does this make sense, I mean when I looked inside his room, he has clothes, a mattress in his room, but no food in the refigerator, on his facebook page he has his status as “single” lol,, I dont know what do you think??If he is with her why would he chance me coming over and a possibility that we would run into each other” or do you believe he is single and I’m just looking to far into things?

Best answer(s):

Answer by Cari
from an older person………learn how to get to the point quicker….much quicker…you are boring everyone who reads your questions.

Answer by staremwi
Girl…run away from this guy. He is lying to you. You are going to look like the jerk if you continue with this…he will see to it. Good Luck

Answer by eye 4 n eye
took a little while but my advice is this…STEER CLEAR.

Answer by Velvet

Answer by Jan
Sounds to me him and his wife are scamming the welfare system

Answer by mannon
From an older person who got “duped” before:
Hang it up. He’s either married or still entangled otherwise with his kids’ mother.
He only wants to see you at certain times and in certain places? Loose him before you get hurt.
Don’t do this to yourself, he’s too dishonest – and too weird – to be worth it.
Move on, and find someone who appreciates you, not someone who’s just looking for a booty call.

Answer by Dave M
To much to read Dear –

Answer by StReaper
He’s a liar.
Leave him alone.
Unless you are dumb and like drama.

Answer by Lona
Much too long and boring.
We can do a Q but not a book.

Answer by Suzianne
Good grief! Can’t you take a hint? He has done everything but draw you a picture to indicate he is not available.

Why would he chance you coming over? Elementary biology, dear.

Domestic violence codeword abused by victims drunk sister (both my friends) NEED ADVICE?

Posted in Working Mothers on 23rd July 2012

Domestic violence codeword abused by victims drunk sister (both my friends) NEED ADVICE?
-2of my best friends are twins. Jane & Janice. Jane is in an abusive relationship. I support Jane, and tell Jane that I’m here if she ever needs me. Jane’s not ready to leave her husband. Jane thinks they can “make their marraige work”. Jane knows that I respect her enough to understand that she must make decisions for herself. Jane & I recently came up with a code word for Jane to tell me if she needed help(“RED SWEATER”), if Jane ever needs me to dial 911, she’ll call me & demand that I return her RED SWEATER. Janice, me, and the twins mom keep in constant communication about Jane’s situation. Yesterday I told Janice about about the code word so she’s not confused if Jane ever calls talking about a red sweater.
-Janice went to visit her sister overnightJanicecalled me at 1a, and was VERY drunk. I asked Janice what she was doing & she said “I’m working on it”. I asked Janice what she was talking about & Janice said “Can I have my RED SWEATER back.” This code word was created for Jane, but Janice was visiting Jane, so I asked Janice if she was in trouble. Janice said “Uh-huh. Yeah. Let me call you right back.” I went into emergency mode & was ready to call police. Janice was so drunk I didn’t know what was happening, just that she had said “RED SWEATER”, and confirmed that she was in trouble. I waited & Janice didn’t call me back. I called Janice who didn’t answer. Then I called Jane & Jane’s husband answered (something he’s done while literally holding Jane hostage before). I never heard Janice’s voice during this call. So I was very concerned. I opted to call twinsat 1am) & see if she wanted to call to check on the twins, so I wasn’t calling over & over (escalating the husbands anger = he doesn’t like me since I’ve driven to pickup Jane during one of his abusive episodes when she called me screaming for me to come & get her while pinned in a corner)
-While I was talking to Jane & Janice’s mom, Janice beeped in. I clicked over to Janice and asked Janice if she was okay. Janice said “Yeah.” But since she said “RED SWEATER” right before letting me go during our last conversation, I didn’t know if she was saying she was okay under duress. So I asked Janice if she could get away from the husband to tell me whats going on and she said yes. Once she was AWAY from the husband I asked again if everything was okay. She repeated that yes, everything was fine. I said, “So no RED SWEATER” And she said, “Oh, no, no…let’s take a step back!” I was very confused at this point. I asked her what was going on. She said that she was visiting with Jane’s husband & that she “found out some things that disturbed her”. LIKE, JUST INFORMATION. NO EMERGENCY. I asked her to please not ever say “RED SWEATER” again unless she needed me to dial 911, bc it means call for help! I explained to her that I had been panicked & that I had already called her mother to tell her that she had called me with the emergency code word. Janice reacted to this by saying “What?! You called my mom?!” And I said “yes, I told her I’d call her back when you beeped in”, and Janice said “Oh, let me call my mom real quick & tell her everything is okay.” So I let her go so she could call her mom. After a minute Janice called me back, and said, “Next time, don’t be so quick to call mi madre [my mother]” in an accusatory voice!!!
-I am FURIOUS that Janice got soo intoxicated while visiting Jane, and then called me in the middle of the night drunk, the second sentence out of her mouth being “can I have my RED SWEATER back?” And THEN had the AUDACITY to act like I was out of line for calling her mother.
-Apparently Janice was drinking, visiting with Jane’s husband. Jane’s husband has reached out to Janice in the past, and for some reason trusts her & tells her things (specifically about abusing her sister, using an opportunity to present HIS side of the story). So apparently Janice was just disturbed by the stories that Jane’s husband opened up & told her& in saying “RED SWEATER” she was just attempting to share her disgust(?) with he situation. I’m furious that Janice abused the emergency code word b/c she was so intoxicated, and then even MADDER that she acted like I overreated to the situation by calling their mom. Janice then acted annoyed that I asked why she said “red sweater”, and stayed on the phone, but was silent. She seemed annoyed to be on the phone with me, so I asked if she wanted me to let her go. She said yes, that she’d call me back whenever.
-I’M ALSO WORRIED Janice will tell the husband about the codeword after a drunken misunderstanding about it. Right now during fights, Jane has been able to call me. Jane’s husband only keeps the phone from her if she says she’s calling P.D.If he knows about the code word, then he’ll probably be unlikely to let Jane have the phone AT ALL during these fights if he thinks she may tell a friend to call the police in code!!!!!

I’m so mad at Janice, what would YOU say to Janice?

Best answer(s):

Answer by Heather
Tell her -when shes sober- that you feel she’s put her sister in jeopardy by her actions.