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Posted in Child Care on 14th January 2012

Suggestions on what to do with adult child that is very disrespectful to their grandparent?
My mother has always been there for my daughter and lived with her father for a while. He did not “take care” of her as she needed to be so if she got a cold or a bug of some sort my mother would drive to their home to give her medication. Later on my mother loaned my daughter the money to buy a car. Daughter was late with payments Alot. Then my daughters car broke down and mom paid to get it fixed, then my daughter lost her job and her auto insurance got behind 2 months, so mom came to the rescue yet again to keep my daughter license from being suspended. Now my daughter has a decent job, her and mom agreed to a date to start her car payments again, and my daughter was late yet again. Plus during all this there were lies on top of lies out this and that. So my daughter being late on that payment was the straw that broke the camels back. Mom wrote her a note explain her disappointment in my daughter. And my daughter responded in the most rude, careless, hurtful way. Just wrong. She burned her bridge so to speak.
She was not like this before she started dating the fool she is with, guess I should have put that into the equation. She is not spoiled, far from it. She is however, very materialistic. True enough, my mom has helped and bailed her out several times. But that came to an end when she was so rude and disrespectful. I just do not know how to handle this this time, she gets this “I don’t give a F***” attitude when you try and point something out that she has done wrong. She does not have the ability to admit when she is wrong, humbly…..always with defiance.

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Answer by Freebird Tina
First off your daughter is seemingly a spoiled person who has learned the behavior of this by your mother. It will have to start with your Mother saying enough is enough and letting your daughter know that she is NOT to be treated like this and that she will no longer help her. If anything your daughter will have to learn that in life nothing is simply handed to her and with a loan company they will not accept her excuses and rude comments but repo the car instead. So sorry to hear this and unless the grandmother puts her foot down for real, the behavior is still going to carry out. And you being mom, make SURE you do not give into her as well.

Answer by Patriot-2
Stop rescuing, step back, and let her grow up.

Answer by Ashley
Tell her what she did was very wrong and tell her all what her grandmother did for her (and what would of happened if she didn’t help her out). She isn’t a very responsible adult, the (very good intending) grandmother should stop bailing her out (that’s why she acts the way she does because she knows that her g-ma will take care of it for her).

Answer by Mrphilly
First off can’t believe both, you and grandma, let her go that far. If i was ever to raise my voice, let alone do all the sh*t she did, to my parents/grand i would get my ass beat an not be able to sit for weeks. She’s a spoiled ass brat, plain and simple. Idk if your mom is nice thgh considering she put up with all of that im guessing she is. Tell her to stop doing the brat favors and let her deal with things on her own, see she gets when she needs help.

You need to tell your mom she needs to stop getting pushed around and take charge. Your daughter needs to stop the childish sh*t and learn some fucking respect if the grandma can’t tell her you need too since she’s your kid. Yo grandma been helping her out with everything and thats the thanks she gets? Way she acts im surprised she hasn’t got ‘taught’ a lesson from another, way she acting won’t be long untill she runs into someone that isn’t going to up with her sh*t.

Answer by Leo Smith
that she will no longer help her. If anything your daughter will have to learn that in life nothing is simply handed to her and with a loan company they will not accept her excuses and rude comments but repo the car instead. So sorry to hear this and unless the grandmother puts her foot down for real, the behavior is still going to carry out. And you being mom, make SURE you do not give into her as well. >>

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