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Posted in Babysitting on 21st May 2014

Should I dump my boyfriend?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and two months. His family didn’t want us to be together for religious reasons but he left his family for me. He is really good to me but I think he’s kind of irresponsible. He doesn’t have a job (even though he is trying to get one) and he is always getting overdraft fees in our bank account. He is always forgetting to do things and just procrastinates them. He is also always stuck babysitting. He isn’t doing well in college but wants to be a neurosurgeon. He has big ambitions but it doesn’t seem like he is working hard to get to them. We also argue a lot. I don’t know what to do. We want to get married but I don’t know how long it would last because of all that and his family might come in the middle again. What would you do?

Best answer(s):

Answer by Vinod P
yes

Answer by Wendell Horsashire
Hmm, well, to begin,
I think him leaving his overzealous family for you is super. (+1)

No job…this is hard. because, the joint bank account combined with the lack of job is a double negative…but if you were to acquire your OWN bank account with your OWN money because YOU have a job,And you dont care about image (the image other people would have of you because your husband doesnt have a job) then its O.K, and if you got your own bank account it would be a 0. Also, I know for a fact that medical school leaves little to no time for work. You dont say what level of college he is at, only that he is planning to be a neurosurgeon (big ambitions – +1),
but since you say he isnt doing well and doesnt study (-1)
I assume he is not studying or spending all his time shadowing a physician. That is when those in medical school REALLY do not have a spare moment for work – when they get the little buzzer and are on call when a doctor is on call to see how the workforce operates. -1 because I think he should be able to have a job.

“He always gets stuck baby sitting”. I think you must mean he doesnt have the guts to stand up to whoever is making him babysit. -1.

Forgetting? O.K. Not a negative quality, I think. A pretty relationship neutral one, unless he forgets your anniversary or something.Forget
-fulness is just a thing more specific to your husband, so unless this quality constantly irks you I wouldnt see it as a weight on judging someone so important.

Procrastinating…see last part above about personal qualities ^

Arguments, -1.

Marital-religious issues, a neutral. Either A) skip it [the only benefit I ever see is tax deduction] or B) work your way through it because I am positive that if he chose being with you over offending his family/religion once, he will do it again.

–PROS/ISSUES NOT TO WORRY ABOUT–
5

–CONS–
4

Conclusion: Do not dump him.

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