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Posted in Working Mothers on 17th October 2012

If you have you ever yelled at the top of your lungs while crying like this.?if so then why,and how old are u?
Only if you have…
Why was that?
I am embrassed…What would our 8 family neighbours (including their sons) think and tell about me….I don’t want to see them, they may not know what was going on…

Actually after a long period of time being patient about so many pressures that were on me in our home, (such as my mothers impassionate reactions about ‘every little stuffs’, and on the other hand my younger brothers ‘loud music’ (Metallica and those kind of styles), that he used to listen on most of the hours in a day regularly, in the living room and his room next by, regradless of how many times, and on how many styles it was told to him and he didn’t change and even made it louder and my compact program of computer works that I have to do before deadlines at home, yesterday suddenly couldn’t control myself while I was back from the gym at the morning and was relaxed and aimed to concentrate on my works, suddenly again the ‘loud music’ began and he doesn’t even about others who live in home, (in such situations the only way seems to be waiting…but how long? he is somehow bully and my father is too aggresive for being told such things to, and my mother on the other side is so fearful and a good growler on every little stuffs with me(though not with my father or my brother who is so faulty, just with me most of all, though she and my father both know somehow that it’s all their faults)
Anyway, this time I came home with mind full of good energies to start my work and my mother started growling again, and talking with a hateful voice and commanding and then continued telling me “you should always get me pissed of , etc” and snooted, and I was really wondering why “I told her I don’t made you pissed off!” she again snooted and repeated the same thing, and a kind of wild music (I guess one of Metallica of sth) was also vibrating the home, while my relaxed lazy brother was walking and snapping fingers in the living room.
I started crying and at the same time yelling at the top of my lungs that “I don’t make you pissed off” and my bully brother joined to support my mother and while my mom was just gazing me (as she always tries to be innocent in these cases) and that continued for about 30 mins as my brother started saying bully things and I had to convince both of them.
And I was really full of both of them, it wasn’t for that incident only, it was for its last night and days before that too, that I was quite or tolerating them.
Usually when I want to talk with them they never take it seriously, or always blame me.
Well ” I even was so anxious about my mothers way of communication with me that I shouted “she is not my mother” , but all at the top of the lungs that even my voice changed after that (though is returning hopefully), but all the neighbours heard me, I’m sure. however I shouted “I don’t care if the neighbours hear me or not” but now I just feel that though the pressure was all on me and they don’t know anything about the situation and may judge but I could still be patient than having to see them after all of this incident.
I just needed to talk with you and like to know your ideas about the neibour part specifically. I’m a girl, most of them have young sons who they also heard me.
And it was the first time that I heard my voice like that….I couldn’t be louder than that, I was really yelling while crying with all my energy!….but believe me it was the last time….
It only had one advantage and that was my brother promised to not make his music that loud as I angrily shouted “I don’t have to play a music in my room to not hear your music”
Please tell your honest thoughts, and any similar experiences you’ve had..
I am specifically embrassed about the ‘neighbours’ part as they are all quite and self composed , though I know they have never had my situations,
But I feel embrassed to see them as voice can be heard in this building from every apartment easily and they all have so many young boys at my age that I know they were all home at that time.
I’m almost 26 and I am trying and planning to get independent as soon also but it needs a little time,however, most of the singles live with their families in our country before getting married.
To the first answerer: No!! I have some work plans that take a little while and also in our country singles (specifically girls) don’t live independently, however I have lived in another city during my university years. I guessed before that some readers only read the last sentece thought.

Best answer(s):

Answer by rijim2001
You are 26. It’s time for you to move out and be independent and live on your own. What are you waiting for, a white knight on a white horse to carry you away?

Answer by Tanya968
It’s hard to say because you don’t tell your culture or location but apparently English is not your primary language.

It really doesn’t matter so much what your culture is –
in these modern times life is very stressful, and living with family when you are a grown woman (esp when repressed by culture and circumstance that makes it necessary) is very difficult.
That puts you in a position where you are an adult, yet expected to behave in a submissive way (as a child or servant) to the family.

Yes, i have cried and screamed as an adult woman, esp when angry, hurt and frustrated. At times this was in apartment, other times while in a house. I am in U.S.
i don’t know what neighbors thought – except they never said or acted different. Maybe they just understood that people lose their temper sometimes.

I don’t know your culture, but whatever it is, people living in the apartment probably know how difficult it is to live with family in close quarters and how they get on your nerves at times.
In the past it might have been unusual for a woman to let her feelings out in this way (in your culture), but today everyone is under so much stress in life, I think they would understand.

Just use your time constructively as you say when you were working in gym and studying. If possible, when brother annoys you, go out for a walk or talk to a neighbor woman or sit in the garden (just to find a calm place for a few minutes).

Good luck in the future.

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