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Posted in Child Support on 22nd December 2011

I need help regarding child support…..?
I live in Missouri and my child’s mother lives in Georgia. When she got pregnant she lived in MO but after she moved to GA we split. We were never married, but she filed a child support order in GA, using MO laws which combines both parents income, and at the time I was making a large amount of money, thus leading to an extremely high child support payment. This was 4 years ago and i dont mean to take ANYTHING from my child, but the mother is now engaged to be married and i dont know anything about my child. She refuses to inform me about anything concerning my child as well. I have been struggling to pay bills here in MO, and i cannot even travel to see my child if terms were better with the mother, while she is using the money I send to pay off credit card bills and pay off jewelry (i found this out through other resources). I do not mean to take from my child, but i know the mother is just using my “child support” money for her and possibly her husbands leisure. I want to file a hardship for myself, because i have bills of my own that i cannot pay, let alone even buy food for myself, but i do not know what that process entails. I know people will respond and say I do not know how much it truly costs to raise a child, and I should not complain because the money is going to my child…and I just pay the support and shut up…..but until you work 80 hours in a two week period and your check is only $ 250 after child support and taxes r taken out…u wont understand. The money I send is not being spent my child and i am 99% sure of that.

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Answer by Bob B
Honestly, it depends which DCSE office your working out of here in MO. The one in Warrensburg is a bunch of femi-nazi head hunters that have NO interest in the children whatsoever. The one in Camdenton told my ex fiancee that her husband was only $ 1200 behind(which was 6 months) and not to call them back until it got serious. The one in KC won’t lessen your support; in their philosophy a man that has made X amount in the past is capable of making that same amount in the future so if he is making less then that its because he is trying to deliberately lower his support payments.

How did she get MO to handle this case anyways? Ususally the county that she resides in is the one that handles it. I would have a lawyer look into that. I would bet that GA would want to use their own system and be divorced from MO’s influence in the matter. If they are working off of where you live I’d seriously try to get in the area handled by the Camdenton office. I don’t know the full range of their boundaries, but I know it ranges at least from Jeff City to Stover to Camdenton. Its a pretty big area.

Answer by rie
Many Dad’s tend to think that mom’s are always spending the money on themselves,but think about what it takes to feed,clothe,& keep a roof over a childs head.It doesn’t matter what you think,but the right & only thing right is for you to send child support for your child.If the issue is seeing the child,then move closer to her,but 1/2 of her care is your responsibility.Sorry,bu if you forget to use birth control,you get to pay child support.Your child is innocent,& at least deserves food & clothing.It doesn’t matter if her mom marries.She still has one dad,& that’s you.Pay or risk having her grow up thinking you don’t care about her.

Answer by marina
Go to the courthouse and get paperwork to get your child support lowered. You don’t need a lawyer for this. Also, get visitation set up. You have a right to see your child and since she is the one who moved out of state, the responsibility of getting the child to you is hers. In other words, she has to provide you with visitation and you do not have to pay to get your child to you, she does. I don’t know if you need a lawyer for the visitation but they should be able to tell you that at the courthouse.

Answer by Papa Bear
AS A REMINDER TO ALL SINGLE MEN SHACKING UP WITH A WOMAN. UNLESS YOU LIVE IN ARIZONA OR CALIFORNIA, YOU HAVE
NO (English/Spanish/Italian);
N-O;
NEE (Dutch);
لا (Arabic);
He (Bulgarian);
いいえ (Japanese);
ASSUMED RIGHTS TO, OR SAY ABOUT, ANY CHILD BORN OUT OF WEDLOCK. ONLY THE COURTS CAN GRANT YOU ANY RIGHTS.

I REPEAT, SINGLE FATHERS IN 97% OF THE U.S. AND ITS TERRITORIES HAVE NO RIGHTS. YOU ARE FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS UNTIL YOU ARE GRANTED THEM. SINGLE MEN MAKE THEMSELVES INTO A SLAVE CLASS THAT MUST ASK PERMISSION OF THEIR SLAVE OWNER (THE MOTHER) OR HER LEGAL REPRESENTATIVE (THE COURTS) FOR PERMISSION TO SEE YOUR CHILD. AND EVEN THAN, 60% OF THE TIME, ACCORDING TO GOVERNMENT STUDIES, YOU WILL BE DENIED ACCESS TO YOUR CHILD, LOSING ALL CONTACT WITHIN FIVE YEARS.

YOU SOLD YOURSELF INTO SLAVERY THE MOMENT YOU TOOK YOUR PECKER OUT OF YOUR PANTS WITH A WOMAN YOU WERE NOT MARRIED TO.

I’ve worked with divorced and single fathers for 20 years.

You have an up mountain, not hill, battle ahead of you. In a word, prepare, prepare, prepare.

Take a certified parenting course. The court is going to order you to take it anyway, so by showing you’ve taken it only looks good to them.

Start keeping a daily journal of all you activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand.

You can get the child support modified if there are grounds to do so.

If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There’s an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. The organization it came from is defunct due to attorneys that tried to take it over and make money from it.

Take the time to learn what you can and should do.

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/

A couple of additional
http://www.glennsacks.com
http://www.parentalalienation.org/

Answer by happyonthewater
You could also check out www.paao-us.com or google Dr. Michael Bone, Dr. Katherine Andre or The Alliance for Single Parents.

Answer by lfahn25
go back to court. It sounds like you are not making what you were, so they can adjust the payment.

Also, her being married can affect the payment.

Also, there should have been some child custody info in the judgment. If you are not seeing, or talking to, or hearing about your child, and you want to, you shouldn’t be paying child support. It’s possible to get the child support, she has to make sure you know how the child is doing.

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