HomeWorking Motherscustody help………………?
Posted in Working Mothers on 21st October 2011

custody help………………?
ok so heres the deal my brother and his g/f are going through some problems…and i dont think there going to be together much longer,there not married.my mom watches the baby all the time even when the mother is home my brother pitches in more than the mom even when he works 12 hour days at work…whenever they get in a fight she “the mother” always threatens to take the baby and go and live with her mom again which is not good because her mothers house is not a suitable enviorment for a baby,because my brothers g/f ,s dad has been known to rape…and at her mothers house they smoke and the babys got full blown asthma.so what im asking is their a way for my brother to break up with his g/f and keep the baby here at my moms house?

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Answer by Marianne M
Call child services first of all tell them your concerns (question ? is he the babys father) If he is he can fight for the child in court. Have your mom say what she thinks and dose for the baby. I wouldnt wait Id start proceedures asap before she does do what she says and takes the baby. Remember fathers have rights to.

Answer by Papa Bear
Print out and give this to your brother.
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AS A REMINDER TO ALL SINGLE MEN SHACKING UP WITH A WOMAN. UNLESS YOU LIVE IN ARIZONA OR CALIFORNIA, YOU HAVE
NO (English/Spanish/Italian);
N-O;
NEE (Dutch);
لا (Arabic);
He (Bulgarian);
いいえ (Japanese);
ASSUMED RIGHTS TO, OR SAY ABOUT, ANY CHILD BORN OUT OF WEDLOCK. ONLY THE COURTS CAN GRANT YOU ANY RIGHTS.

I REPEAT, SINGLE FATHERS IN 97% OF THE U.S. AND ITS TERRITORIES HAVE NO RIGHTS. YOU ARE FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS UNTIL YOU ARE GRANTED THEM. SINGLE MEN MAKE THESELVES INTO A SLAVE CLASS THAT MUST ASK PERMISSION OF THEIR SLAVE OWNER (THE MOTHER) OR HER LEGAL REPRESENTATIVE (THE COURTS) FOR PERMISSION TO SEE YOUR CHILD. AND EVEN THAN, 60% OF THE TIME, ACCORDING TO GOVERNMENT STUDIES, YOU WILL BE DENIED ACCESS TO YOUR CHILD, LOSING ALL CONTACT WITHIN FIVE YEARS.

YOU SOLD YOURSELF INTO SLAVERY THE MOMENT YOU TOOK YOUR PECKER OUT OF YOUR PANTS WITH A WOMAN YOU WERE NOT MARRIED TO.

I’ve worked with divorced and single fathers for 20 years.

You have an up mountain, not hill, battle ahead of you. In a word, prepare, prepare, prepare.

Get an order enter forcing a DNA test, unless one has already been done.

If one has been done, go to the child support enforcement to setup a voluntary order. Wait for them to file against you will result in you paying all court costs.

Take a certified parenting course. The court is going to order you to take it anyway, so by showing you’ve taken it only looks good to them.

Start keeping a daily journal of all you activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand.

The court will order you into mediation, so take the lead first. Instead of hiring attorneys, go to a mediator and try to hammer out an agreement. A mediator is an attorney or paralegal with certified training as a mediator. You each have to pay half the fees in order for the mediator to have the appearance of being unbiased.

If you and the mother are civil, consider Bird Nest Custody. In this the child lives in one home and each parent live there for 3-4 weeks, than switch. You live with friends, family, rent a room, etc. on the off time. In this manner, your child’s life is not disrupted. They are not being shifted back and forth. They keep their own room, friends, school, etc. It is hard on the parents, but than the child comes first. This is the form of custody rocker Ted Nugent had.

If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There’s an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. The organization it came from is defunct due to attorneys that tried to take it over and make money from it.

Take the time to learn what you can and should do.

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/

A couple of additional
http://www.glennsacks.com
http://www.parentalalienation.org/

Now, I’m going to remind you that it is best for the child to have both parents in the home, otherwise your child has a 400% higher potential for early age sexual activity, drug use, criminal behavior, etc. Without being consider a stalker, do anything possible to keep the family together. Here’s some books to read that might help.

Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbninquiry.asp?r=1&afsrc=1&pwb=1&ean=9780060933791&z=y

Ten Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationships
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbninquiry.asp?r=1&afsrc=1&pwb=1&ean=9780060512606&z=y

Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Men-Do-to-Mess-Up-Their-Lives/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780641865411/?itm=8

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