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Posted in Child Support on 29th March 2014

Child Support. Not great ex husband being a jerk. Please help?
My daughter is 3 years old. My ex and I have been divorced since she was 1. He has only paid child support once and we live in the same town. He never calls to see but is constantly telling people that I never let him see her and I a heroin addict and alot of other stupid shit. So I told him my daughter isn’t going over to his mom’s house (where he lives) until he pays because it’s not fair he gets free time and I have to work overtime and still barely get to see her. He just got a job 2 months ago in the last year. I also told him if he wants to see her he can come over to my house and see her because I don’t want her over at his mom’s house (his dad is creepy and my daughter comes back saying weird things so it’s not just because he’s a jerk) until he starts paying child support. He’s making a big deal about everything and I want to know if I should take him to court? I already told him if hes worried about my spending it on myself if he could just go buy some winter clothes that would be enough, but he hung up on me. Is there another way other then court to solve this? Please any advice would be greatly appropriated.

Best answer(s):

Answer by R K
if you can sign up for welfare, the county where you live will go after your ex to get all the back child support to keep you off welfare.

Answer by lady
When you were divorced did he get court order child support payments and visitation rights? You need to make sure that you are in compliance with whatever the court ordered. If he was ordered to pay support, and has not,then he is in contempt of court and you can take him to court.. He could get jail time, garnished wages etc.Make sure you document EVERYTHING. Every phone call..date time what was said etc. Any time he spends with your daughter….date, length of time.
Going to court and getting things put down in writing is the only way to protect yourself and your daughter.
Good Luck!

Answer by goodnused
I think you may check with you local child welfare departments for advise. Surely most county court houses have people available to assist you in getting money for child support. If it has to go to court, they may assist also. The DEAD BEAT days are over, but please don’t use his parents or him as the reason you daughter can see them. Unless you have 100% proof that they are in some way a violation of the child’s best interest. Good Luck.

Answer by Taurean
You wrote “I don’t want her over at his mom’s house (his dad is creepy and my daughter comes back saying weird things so it’s not just because he’s a jerk) until he starts paying child support”

Would you send your daughter to his CREEPY dad if he starts paying child support?

Answer by June
You need to get in touch with the child support agency.
If your x doesn’t work then he cant pay child support if he does work then they will work out how much he earns and take a percentage from his wages.
If i was you i would not bother with him as he seems like a person that your child could do without in growing years.
Sometimes fighting someone for what ever reason is not worth it.
Try to look after your child your self and let the child suport agency do the chasing.
You may get some money in a year most likely not much as he will be one of those people that know how to play the system.
good luck.

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