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what is this song & who sang it? i like to look out my bedroom window & watch all the children play…but wher?

Posted in Child Care on 4th June 2014

what is this song & who sang it? i like to look out my bedroom window & watch all the children play…but wher?
The lyrics are: “I like to look out my bedroom window & watch all the children play…watch them play… and where do they go when the games are over,i hope they “ve got a place to stay..ooh they got a place to stay. Its a sad situation but its worse when nothings done, but i..have a question to ask everyone…Do you care….” it was popular in the 90’s and had the chorus “Do you care”. a really nice song i think recorded for homeless children.
This song was done by a group of people who all sang the song in parts as in ,they sang each line one after the other . There is even an accapella version. It was not done by bizzy bone.I was popular in the early 90’s. The 2nd verse is something like this “When you are down the street and you see someone needs a hand ,give him a hand…is that too much to ask…oooh its better to give than to receive..this is true,just imagine if that was you…”

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Answer by OmgItsHer
Bizzy Bone – Jesus

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Answer by Jeremiah
Bizzy Bone – Jesus Lyrics
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But if you need me. Remember to close … I like to look out my bedroom window. And watch all the children play play play. Just watch them play. But where will they go when the games are over. I hope they got a place to stay.

Answer by CM DRAGON
The Pedophile song, OKay i’m probably going to hell for that one XD

A debate that I don’t understand?

Posted in Child Care on 30th May 2014

A debate that I don’t understand?
Recently, I saw a debate that I couldnt quite figure out. The debate was about some lesbians who want there children to call them “daddy” or “father”, be the man of the house and being called “daddy” in bed. Alot of the people didn’t agree with the children calling them “daddy” because in there quote, it might “confuse” the child.

I didn’t know what to think of it.

Has anyone ever heard of this before ? And do you agree or disagree ?

**Please Star**

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Answer by John Honor
The arbitrary distortion of reality, and compelling children to honor it, is one of the more sickeningly vicious sorts of child abuse.

Edit: I’m greatly pleased, judging by the thumbs down I’ve earned, to have offended so many whom I’d have thought incapable of understanding me, and whom it can only benefit to know how deeply and how bitterly I despise them.

Answer by J
I doubt that really exists, except for the in bed part.

Answer by One Day
I have never heard about that, but Im sure it happens….to each their own I guess.

Answer by D’
I find it absurd that anyone would engage in such an act. But knowing how f*cked up the world is, I am not going to argue against that.

Answer by *crys*
I don’t think it would cause any permanent damage, but don’t do that, my kids call me and my girlfriend mama and mommy. as long as theres no proof that it is likely to cause any long term damage

Answer by katydint
I don’t disagree because they should be able to have their family (and role titles) any way they want it.
Children, no matter what confusion greets them from home, are ‘straightened out’ fast enough by school, neighbors, media, family, etc. The children will see the different designs of family composition as they grow, and will by nature compare. By the time they’re adults, they’ll have had a lot to think about, and will decide what feels right for each of them, as they look to having their own households and families.

“I don’t care what you call me, just don’t call me late for dinner”

Answer by τнατ gιгℓ ♫
Power to them. Maybe the lesbian couple’s thinking is that, for example, on early school assignments, there’s going to be a line for Mother and Father. Just to make things easier, one parent will be the “father.” Honestly, I think it’s better for the child to understand in its early years that he/she has two mothers rather than one father and one mother.

Maybe it gives them some kind of normalcy in their relationship. But if I were the second non-daddy lesbian in the relationship, I wouldn’t want to call my partner “Daddy.” She didn’t fall in love with a man, she fell in love with a woman.

Answer by Noname
I have never, ever heard of a lesbian couple where on wanted to be called daddy. From my experience, gay parents let their kids decide what to call them, usually some thing like mommy and ma. Or daddy and papa.
Maybe there is a lesbian couple where one wants to be called daddy, but I’ve never heard of it. Maybe you are confusing female to male transsexuals for lesbians. A transman is a man, and is transitioning to physically be a man, so of course if he had kids he would be the dad. And I think wanting your partner to call you “daddy” during intercourse is a personal preference, one I doubt Every, Single transman shares.

Answer by auty
Yes I heard it, it was pretty out there. I disagree and agree with the people who said it would confuse the child. After all they have two moms, so? In my case for a little while they just had me until I met my love.

That isn’t the only reason though. There is no “daddy” in the house. If they needed discipline I would provide it, although hell at 19 and 17 there was very little need. They are 25 and 23 now with the older girl being married with a baby.

Answer by Gary
Unless you are in the position of making this decision for yourself and a child, what concern is it to you. Whether two or more people are married is really no one elses business. How two or more people who care for a child decide to be called by that child is no body elses business. What would most confuse the child would be those “other” people who “care” about the terms used–who are they to me (the child thinks); why do they have a say in my familys business? They don’t, is the answer. If you keep reminding the child that church and state are artificial institutions which he should never respect, the kid will grow up just fine! Government is ineffectual; religion is outdated.

will you send your child to a residential school if you had to? My son has autism, schools are not helping.?

Posted in Child Care on 28th May 2014

will you send your child to a residential school if you had to? My son has autism, schools are not helping.?
Hi; My name is Robyn and I am a single parent of a 8 year old boy, his name is D’Andre’ and I love him soooooo much! I am in a bind and I have to make a decision, I do not want to come across as selfish but… I have been at home with D’Andre’ living on social security for over 6 years and I want to make a life for the both of us and the oly way i see doing it is to put him in a home for a year so that i will be able to obtain a house and a reliable vechile for us. I am 43 now so i have to do something or we will be living on social security until we get social security. I need to be responsible and not selfish in this decision and my family who gives me zero help not even for me to go to the doctor’s for myself are saying that i am wrong, well he is not making any progress in school and his behavior is over the top when we go out, maybe i have taken him as far as i am suppose to. I have never thought about this before, it’s just that he is out of control, i do not know what to do

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Answer by Aliz-USA
I did send my child to a residential school when he was 3 because I knew the more he could learn at a young age the better off he’d be when he was an adult. I knew that I could not teach him enough myself because I had not been trained on how to teach him.
It was hard on me to let him go, but I knew it was the best thing for me to do for him. He will soon be 41 and I am not sorry I did what I did for him.
I would suggest that you let him go, but not to a school run by a religious group because he will learn that God is good and the devil is bad and then repeat those things he was taught. Now he talks about the devil telling him to do bad things. Society thinks someone is mentally ill if they do. But for him it is his way of talking about the good and bad.
Again, please send him to a residential school and I wish you the best.

Answer by Ms. Phyllis
No, I would most definitely not send my child to a residential school. I understand that you are in a bind and must make a decision. and I do understand that you have been home with your son for six years.

I am a 47-year-old mother with a 7-year-old son who will soon be evaluated for ADHD/Asperger’s syndrome (high functioning autism). His behavior is sometimes “over the top ” too, and I have virtually no family support. My family and I live in different states. I have tried working from home for the last year, and it has not worked out well. Yet, I know that I must do what is best for me as well as my son and what is best for him is to be with his mother who loves him.

You will not be able to parent your child while he is in a residential home. I do not know how severe his autism is, but have you looked into whether your state/city offers “respite care,” so you can have a break every week or two?

Often disabled children are abused–physically and sexuallly–in residential home settings. I doubt if the home you have in mind is one of the better ones. I would not put my child in such a home, but I would seek out more therapy for him. Also, homeschooling is an option which you might want to research. You might also think about training for a career such as medical transcription where you can make a good living working from home; you could then have someone come into your home and watch D’Andre’ while you take a break. Additionally, take the initiative with the schools and pursue, pursue, pursue an appropriate IEP and subsequent implementation of that IEP. D’Andre’, like all children, is entitled to a free and appropriate public school education.

I understand the financial sacrifices one has to make when there is a child with special needs, yet we owe our children the world and they owe us nothing. We brought them into the world and whether the father is there to help or not, we must do all we can to take care of them. It saddens me, Robyn, that your family is not willing to help; perhaps your church, Easter Seals, or some other organization may help you. Research and look into all possible options.

I hope this is helpful.

Answer by frogg692
i would; it will help him adjust to life and give him the skills he may need to live a more independent life later

Answer by Kathryn R
You should have him evaluated by a private evaluator and than have a school IEP conference and see if you can get them to pay for a private school for kids with learning disability. They have to if you can prove that being in the public school system hasn’t helped him. If he’s out of control than you may have to consider getting therapy for both of you. You don’t say what part of the country that you live in so I can’t help you with specific information, I’m in NY and only know
about the services available on the east coast. If you live here than e-mail me and I may be able to give you some more detailed information.

Answer by Jade645
I think you need to look at the benefit he would or would not get in a residential school. I know given your situation it is hard to not look at the financial aspect of this situation and your current dire need, but some residential schools who are specifically set up for kids with autism and more severe behavior problems may make a positive difference in his life that should be considered. However if it is really just a warehouse for him while you can get on your feet I would not do it. It takes several years of good schooling and teaching to make up for one bad year and a bad residential school could make him even more difficult to live with in the long run. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says but make sure you are doing right by your son. I would definitely pursue your rights via the public school system. If you are in the U.S. and your child has extreme behavior difficulties you are entitled to a functional analysis assessment and a behavior intervention plan. Get a copy of your parent rights from your school district and there is usually free agency that can provide assistance for pursuing the IEP process more vigorously.

Answer by Mary K
If you think the school is not doing what it agreed to do in your son’s IEP, then it is very important that you call an immediate IEP team meeting and ask the team if they feel a residential placement is appropriate. One thing you do NOT want to do is make what they call a “unilateral placement”- that is when you decide all by yourself to put him in that school. If you do make a unilateral decision, the school district is not responsible for paying for the school. There may be another possiblity such as a private day school that would be a better placement for your son, but less drastic than residential placement and the school may suggest this as an alteranative that should be tried. You can also ask for a Functional Behavioral Assessment and a for a Behavior Intervention Plan. Once the school gets a handle on how to help your son regulate his behaviors, they may be able to help youuse similar strategies at home. With the right intervention, eventhe most sever behavior issues can improve.

Also, since your son is Autistic, you should be eligible for assistance from your state in the form of a respite worker who would come to your home so that you can take care of things like shopping and doctor’s appointments. Have you applied for benefits through your state?

If you do decide that residential placment is best for you and for your son for now, know that it takes great love sometimes to let go and do what you know is right even in the face of disapproval from others who do not understand.

P.S. If anyone gives you serious trouble about the idea, drop your son off at their house for an hour or two and then ask them what they think! Hang on!

Answer by teacher_n_texas78
I do not know what you are going through. I’m a special education teacher who gets to work with children with Autism during the day then go home to the peace and quiet of my home. I work in the public schools but did some observations in a residential treatment program while I was working on my masters in Autism.

Has the public school district helped you in every way? Do you have an in home trainer to help with your son transfering skills from the school setting to the home setting? Have you tried respite care for the weekend or a short term placement?

It is very important to exhaust all your possibilities before you look into a residential treatment program… especially if you want the school district to pay for it.

Answer by TeacherLady
Sometimes a child needs more than the public school is able to give, not because the teachers don’t care or the system is flawed, but because the child’s needs are so intense that they cannot be met in the standard school setting.

If this is the case, then your son may be better off in a residential school setting, and you are brave and courageous to put him there.

Think about it – if he had a serious medical problem you would go ahead and put him the hospital; he has a serious problem and you are getting him treatment for it. It’s not as though you were putting him into a prison and never going to see him again. Most facilities encourage visitation by families and even hold groups and classes for parents. They even help to work up a treatment plan to help the child transition back home, and make sure that you have the support you need to help your child.

It’s a shame that you don’t have any family support; if you get a negative response consider offering to allow D’Andre to live with them for awhile, since they think they can do a better job than you. Let them see what it’s like to walk a mile in your shoes, and maybe they won’t be so quick to judge.

Trust your instincts. Your his mother, you have his best interests at heart, and you know him best.

Good luck with this difficult decision.

Answer by ♥Ĵunỉþ€я♀
You know, in days past, a mother was not expected to work as a 24-hour nurse! It just wasn’t done – children with disabilities usually went to residential facilities to be cared for by professionals. No one would expect even a married couple to handle the immense stress and pressure alone! And you’re a single mom, too, which is doubly hard.

The only way to really make it work otherwise, IMHO, is with a TON of family support. I am very lucky in that regard, and have an involved husband and own mom and dad to help out. I understand that it is probably better for him to be at home with you, all else being equal. However, it sounds like all else is NOT equal, in this situation – you are falling into quicksand, am I right? There will be benefits to him to have the kind of structure they can provide, as well.

Sometimes doing the best thing for our children means not letting our feelings of guilt get in the way of doing what’s *really* best for everyone. If you are not able to find any resources, such as family help, it might be worth looking into residential care, at least for a while. Also make sure that you are on the list for respite care, although it takes a few years to actually get any.

Best of Luck – I know that raising an autistic child is just about the hardest job in the world. God Bless.

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