2014 March - Baby-sitting & Childcare

how was your first week at home with baby #1, what were the main problems you had?

Posted in Babysitting on 31st March 2014

how was your first week at home with baby #1, what were the main problems you had?
about to have my first and was wondering what to expect when i bring baby home?

Best answer(s):

Answer by mrsb
my main problems were getting up at night, not really a problem just hard to adjust to because there is nothing like getting good sleep lol

Answer by Free 2 B Me
Not sleeping when he slept leaving me more tired.

Answer by •:*:•Ky♥Mom•:*:•
I have to agree with the first poster… getting up at night is the hardest… while the first few nights are pretty easy it only goes down hill from there… by the time my son was about 3 months old I think I could get up, walk to the kitchen, make a bottle and feed my son without even waking up (okay maybe I woke up, but I really got used to it!)
Also it’s just pretty nerve racking altogether! It’s a pretty big thing to get used to, but mothers usually catch on pretty quickly.
Sleep when you baby sleeps, and remember it’s okay to let your house be messy… I tried to hard when I brought my baby home, and rarely got to enjoy just having him there, so mainly just enjoy it, and get as much sleep as you can, sleep deprivation can do a number on you!
Good luck!

Answer by “EL GUAPO”
you are not going to get a good night’s sleep for about the first six weeks or so, so rest up now! First week is a lot of feeding, changing diapers and listening to crying. This will be all day every day, no breaks! Unless you have help and are planning to formula feed. In that case you might be able to nap more that I did!

Answer by momsey
Expect an insane lack of sleep. You’ll never believe how much that baby is up in the night, and might only be able to sleep when you are holding him or her. Just try to take it easy, listen to everyone’s advice when they tell you to sleep when the baby is sleeping. And just know that it will get better!

Answer by Practical & Magical
oh wow, actually my 1st week home, we stayed with my mom (me daddy and baby) and like after day 2, daddy and I slept though an entire day! My mom got up with the baby. Pretty bad, but seriously didn’t hear her! But after that, if she wiggles her toes i hear her!

Answer by krob8008
You’ll be really tired and possibly a little emotional. Man, thinking back on my first baby, the time we spent together right after we came home from the hospital was just so special! I really enjoyed it! I was young and tired and basically single (not really) but I was doing it all on my own. My first baby boy just holds this really special place in my heart. You’ll melt every time you look at your baby! Congrats!

Answer by Melissa S
My main problems were trying to nurse, figuring out a pumping routine, and coping with feelings of jealousy i had toward my husband. He did a lot of the post-birth care for our baby because I had a c-section and couldn’t do much lifting, walking, etc. I felt insanely jealous/threatened that he was changing the diapers and picking her up from the bassinet in the middle of the night. That subsided during week two. Being a mom brings out your protective side!

Answer by SS.622
Okay, well it was HELL for me..no one told me babies eat every 2 hours night and day..so when I was getting woken up all night long..I was wanting to rip my hair out and run away.
But she didnt just wake up..once she got up at say 1 am..she was up until like 5 in the morning..crying.
So just be prepared to not geting ANY sleep..and be prepared to hear lots of crying.

Most babies get their days and nights mixed up..and it normally stays like that for atleast a couple of weeks..for my daughter it took her nearly 10 weeks to figure out night time was for sleeping.

lol..thanks for the thumbs down losers.

Answer by imglowinq
it is my first baby..and i only live with my husband who knew even less than i did… i didnt even want to sleep because i was afraid the baby couldnt breathe or something since i never had been in charge of a newborn before…i didnt even have time to eat, i ended up loosing 40 pounds in a month, unbelievable but true

Child Support. Not great ex husband being a jerk. Please help?

Posted in Child Support on 29th March 2014

Child Support. Not great ex husband being a jerk. Please help?
My daughter is 3 years old. My ex and I have been divorced since she was 1. He has only paid child support once and we live in the same town. He never calls to see but is constantly telling people that I never let him see her and I a heroin addict and alot of other stupid shit. So I told him my daughter isn’t going over to his mom’s house (where he lives) until he pays because it’s not fair he gets free time and I have to work overtime and still barely get to see her. He just got a job 2 months ago in the last year. I also told him if he wants to see her he can come over to my house and see her because I don’t want her over at his mom’s house (his dad is creepy and my daughter comes back saying weird things so it’s not just because he’s a jerk) until he starts paying child support. He’s making a big deal about everything and I want to know if I should take him to court? I already told him if hes worried about my spending it on myself if he could just go buy some winter clothes that would be enough, but he hung up on me. Is there another way other then court to solve this? Please any advice would be greatly appropriated.

Best answer(s):

Answer by R K
if you can sign up for welfare, the county where you live will go after your ex to get all the back child support to keep you off welfare.

Answer by lady
When you were divorced did he get court order child support payments and visitation rights? You need to make sure that you are in compliance with whatever the court ordered. If he was ordered to pay support, and has not,then he is in contempt of court and you can take him to court.. He could get jail time, garnished wages etc.Make sure you document EVERYTHING. Every phone call..date time what was said etc. Any time he spends with your daughter….date, length of time.
Going to court and getting things put down in writing is the only way to protect yourself and your daughter.
Good Luck!

Answer by goodnused
I think you may check with you local child welfare departments for advise. Surely most county court houses have people available to assist you in getting money for child support. If it has to go to court, they may assist also. The DEAD BEAT days are over, but please don’t use his parents or him as the reason you daughter can see them. Unless you have 100% proof that they are in some way a violation of the child’s best interest. Good Luck.

Answer by Taurean
You wrote “I don’t want her over at his mom’s house (his dad is creepy and my daughter comes back saying weird things so it’s not just because he’s a jerk) until he starts paying child support”

Would you send your daughter to his CREEPY dad if he starts paying child support?

Answer by June
You need to get in touch with the child support agency.
If your x doesn’t work then he cant pay child support if he does work then they will work out how much he earns and take a percentage from his wages.
If i was you i would not bother with him as he seems like a person that your child could do without in growing years.
Sometimes fighting someone for what ever reason is not worth it.
Try to look after your child your self and let the child suport agency do the chasing.
You may get some money in a year most likely not much as he will be one of those people that know how to play the system.
good luck.

Please help!! How much weight should my 1 year old gain each month?

Posted in Toddlers on 27th March 2014

Please help!! How much weight should my 1 year old gain each month?
My daughter is very picky. I try all kinds of things but she won’t eat much. This has just started like 1 1/2 months ago. I am getting worried becuase she hasn’t put on any weight. She weighs the same as she did then. she weighs 20.6 pounds. and she is verry tall. She has been fussing alot lately, I think she may be getting her molars in. Any advice? She will eat somthing one day and thenn not the next.

Best answer(s):

Answer by iamjustcurious
If your daughter was a full term, average weight baby at birth, then she is right on track. At twelve months, she might be getting her eye and stomach teeth, but not her molars until she is about two. The eye and stomach teeth [the pointy ones on the top and bottom, either side of the top and bottom 4 teeth], can cause her to go off her food a little. Don’t worry, just keep up her fluids and offer her a variety of food at meal times and she will be fine.

Answer by kitty81301
Don’t worry about her, if you give her the food and she doesn’t want to eat it then she is not going to. Most children will not starve themselves. Some kids don’t gain weight every month my son has been the same weight for the past couple months. If it is her teeth then give a small dose of Tylenol and if its still bothering you take her to her pediatrician. Just relax a little because children do feed off your anxiety

Answer by western b
She sounds like she is doing all the “normal toddler” things 🙂 When my son hit his first birthday, he went from being a human garbage disposal, to eating like a bird! His pediatrician told me I should expect him to gain 4 pounds between his first and second birthday…so just over 5oz a month…hardly anything compared to the first year! He also told me to expect a toddler to eat either one large meal a day or to have one whole day of good eating every three days 🙂 Just keep offering nutritious snacks and meals throughout the day and she will eat when she is hungry!!

As far as the molars are concerned…my son cut his first set of molars at 14 months (all four of them at once!) I found he actually enjoyed toasted bagels the most when he was teething because chewing the bread was like a massage for his gums 🙂 I would just toast one with some cheese on top to sneak in a bit of protein and he gobbled it up 🙂

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