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putting my babies father on child support?

Posted in Child Support on 31st May 2012

putting my babies father on child support?
the problem is that will make us break up but in order for my child to get medicaid i will have to sue the father and put him on child support. he doesnt want to be on child support, but i dont see why its so bad to him. it shows proof he has been taking care of our child(so i cant sue him for back child support) and its based on income. i dont want to tell him that i will eventually put him on it until i get a paper in the mail saying its either child support or no medicaid. what i’ve tried to get through his head is that if our baby gets sick we cant afford to pay doctors bills and thats the best thing, and we won’t have to worry about paying for doctors bills and his medicines. but he just sees it as “child support” what can i do? im 18 and im trying to be the best mother and be an adult at the same time. i have to do whats best for me and him. if he cant accept the fact he’ll have to be on it is it best we just break up all together? he talks big like he’ll pay for the doctors bills but in the end i’d be the one getting stuck paying for it because he cant pay $ 300 out of pocket then $ 50 here and there for medicine if our baby ever gets sick.

Best answer(s):

Answer by Kristen
you have to do what’s right for your baby first, especially with something as important as medical insurance. Explain that to him, and if he doesn’t understand that, it is probably best that you have the assurance of child support anyway. If he’s not willing to face the responsibility of child support, what other things will he back down from, especially if your baby gets sick? You never know what will happen, and hopefully you won’t need an extensive amount from medicaid, but it’s always better to be safe than sorry in a situation as important as your baby’s health.

Answer by alicialions
I don’t understand what you are talking about…what is putting the father on child support?

Answer by charlottesmommy
Do neither of you have a job that offers health insurance?

Answer by S B
If that breaks you up, then you’re better off in my opinion. Unfortunately though, you’ll be dealing with this man until your child is 18 or older. The games parents play with the issues of child support, visitation, etc, is so damaging to the child too.

Perhaps he would rather marry you so that you are protected by the laws of marriage? If not, then you need a child support agreement for sure.

What really gets me though is him having trouble with seeing it as “child support,” like it’s a bad thing. Is he hiding from something? He sounds like a loser to me.

Take it to court and get your $ $ and if he doesn’t pay, have him arrested. Then you wont have to deal with him. There’s plenty of potential step-dads out there too!

Answer by Bella
Protect yourself and your baby. He doesn’t want to be on support because that would be too much like someone telling him what to do, and you know how men are… they like to think they have it under control and don’t need anyone telling them anything.

Bottom line, unless you’re prepared to get stuck with all the bills, do it, because we both know he won’t come through for you when the chips are down. So what if you break up, it would be easier without all his drama.

Answer by nelawala
Screw sparing his feelings.

If he claims he can pay for medical insurance then tell him there would be no difference paying medical insurance than paying child support.Money is money.

If he isn’t willing for the child to be put on medical insurance, I would break up with him.The kid comes first.

Answer by Lola
Quit playing games and get your crap together.
File for child support, even if you dont apply for medicaid. Period point blank.
Doesnt matter what he thinks.

Answer by Fred
from what i just read your saying you wont him to pay child support so your baby well get what he needs.will that sounds like what he should do.it’s he’s son and why not help take CARE of him.he is the dad.so what’s the problem that he wont help out.just because you are paying child support dose not mean that you should not do what’s right.like she said that if you do that it well show that you are doing what you are sup-post to do for your son.look i got my son on my SS and i don’t main doing that because i know it’s helping him.he can get what he needs when ever he needs it.so step up and be a dad for your son do what you need to do for him.so be a man and do what’s right.now that’s the best advice i can give you.your friend fred

Answer by VoiceofCommonSense
Child support is for the child. Not for you, and not to spare his feelings. If he can’t put his kid first, he’s not worth having around.
It doesn’t matter what he sees as child support. The courts and a judge decide that. They’ll garnish his wages if necessary.

Answer by angela
First of all him paying child support does not mean that you can not get medicaid. They go by you income and how many is in the household. If he is working and his job does not offer insurance and does not make enough to get it on his own then you can get medicaid. In most states you have to have an income over 1200.00 a month to not be able to get it. If there is more than 2 people in the house then the income max is more. If he is not living with you than you will have no trouble getting medicaid for your child. By the way its not putting the father ON child support its making him pay child support.

Ex got on welfare to avoid paying child support – is this fraud?

Posted in Child Support on 30th May 2012

Ex got on welfare to avoid paying child support – is this fraud?
Is this fraud?

So my ex owes child support and has 50% custody of my child. When we split, he was the higher wage earner and had his own business, and made more money than me. I was unemployed and didn’t want to file for welfare assistance. So I hit him up for child support.

He disregarded the support order and didn’t pay, was $ 5k in arrears when the Child Support Agency decided to take him to court for contempt. He has been under their radar because he doesnt show income, as he is self employed and can easily hide it.

In order to stop possible jail sentence from the Child Support Agency, he files for government assistance – Medical, food stamps and cash aid. He is eligible for the aid based on the information he provided the worker, so child support stops going after him.

Now Child Support is after me and my wages, and when I asked my ex if he knew they were going after me – he said, “Drop your child support case and I’ll get off aid and the state won’t go after you. I want you to sign a letter and give it to Child Support”

He clearly doesn’t need the government aid, as he’s bragged about getting large accounts with big firms, has a facebook page with his business info and photos of past/present work and him actually doing the work. He’s on welfare to retaliate against me. What should I do?

Best answer(s):

Answer by Ann
If what you are saying is true, he is committing welfare fraud. And if he is willing to do that to keep you from getting his money, accept that he is never going to give you any support and move on.

Don’t look at it as losing child support. Look at it as gaining some sanity and calm.

Answer by Yarr
Pretty sure they can dig into his history and see that he has been reporting money that is not enough to live the life he has but has never filed for support until right now. I’m pretty sure that would be enough for them to look more closely and find that he is committing fraud–and probably a bunch of other things that aren’t legal.

Answer by Bella
Wait patiently. If what you say is true it’s only a matter of time before he’s discovered and in jail for his crimes. You can only benefit from the truth being revealed.

Cute jokes/stories for you?

Posted in Working Mothers on 28th May 2012

Cute jokes/stories for you?
The Way Children See Things!

NUDITY
I was driving with my three young children one warm summer evening when a
Woman in the convertible ahead of us stood up and waved. She was stark
naked! As I was reeling from the shock, I heard my 5-year-old shout from the
back seat, “Mom! That lady isn’t wearing a seat belt!

HONESTY
My son Zachary, 4, came screaming out of the bathroom to tell me he’d
dropped his toothbrush in the toilet. So I fished it out and threw it in the
garbage. Zachary stood there thinking for a moment, then ran to my bathroom
and came out with my toothbrush. He held it up and said with a charming
little smile, “We better throw this one out too then, ’cause it fell in the
toilet a few da ys ago.

OPINIONS
On the first day of school, a first-grader handed his teacher a Note from
his mother. The note read, “The opinions expressed by this child are not
necessarily those of his parents.”

KETCHUP
A woman was trying hard to get the ketchup to come out of the jar. During
her struggle the phone rang so she asked her 4-year-old daughter to answer
the phone. “It’s the minister, Mommy,” the child said to her mother. Then
she added, “Mommy can’t come to the phone to talk to you right now. She’s
hitting the bottle.”

MORE NUDITY
A little boy got lost at the YMCA and found himself in the women’s locker
room. When he was spotted, the room burst into shrieks, with ladies grabbing
towels and running for cover. The little boy watched in amazement and then
asked, ! ! ! “What’s the matter haven’t you ever seen a little boy before?”

ELDERLY
While working for an organization that delivers lunches to elderly
shut-ins, I used to take my 4-year-old daughter on my afternoon rounds. The
various appliances of old age, particularly the canes, walkers and
wheelchairs, unfailingly intrigued her. One day I found her staring at a
pair of false teeth soaking in a glass. As I braced myself for the
inevitable barrage of questions, she merely turned and whispered, “The tooth
fairy will never believe this!”

DRESS-UP
A little girl was watching her parents dress for a party. When she saw her
dad donning his tuxedo, she warned, “Daddy, you shouldn’t wear that suit.”
“And why not, darling?” “You know that it always gives you a headache the
next morning.”

SCHOOL
A little girl had just finished her first week of school. “I’m just wasting
my time,” she said to her mother. “I can’t read, I can’t write and they
won’t let me talk!”

BIBLE
A little boy opened the big family bible. He was fascinated as he fingered
through the old pages. Suddenly, something fell out of the Bible. He picked
up the object and looked at it. What ! he saw was an old leaf that had been
pressed in between the pages. “Mama, look what I found”, the boy called
out.” What have you got there, dear?” With astonishment in the young boy’s
voice, he answered, “I think it’s Adam’s underwear

Best answer(s):

Answer by Waynes Angel
very very cute two thumbs up

Answer by amhouse84
Very cute. Kids will say anything!

Answer by dipperwidget
these are old but cute

Answer by Laprincessa1182
Very very cute. thanx for the smile.

Answer by queenmackerel
Nice and clean! Kids say the darnedest things!

Answer by Pd
ha ha i like the ketchup one

Answer by paddy j
I am wasting my time on my korean language class, I cant read i cant write , even the teacher dont allow me to talk !!!!!!!!!!! hhhhha

I just cant get enough this

Answer by myastar123
so adorable, if you have anymore please post them!

Answer by girlnextdoor
lol 🙂

Answer by Electric
hahahah..nice ones….I liked them all…especially ‘more nudity’….LOL

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